In Byrd's sensational hit, “Turn, Turn, Turn”, there are lines:
A time for love, a time for hate
A time for peace, I swear it's not too late!
When it comes to applying the song to a relationship, an additional line would have been appropriate, “a time for divorce”.
Yes, unpleasant as it may sound, there is a time for divorce. No one can definitely say it is the right decision. You may ponder whether to fight to stay in your marriage or fight to get out of marriage or cut your losses.
Did you notice that whichever way you decide, you had to fight. That is the point. If you have to “fight”, to stay in the marriage, then that itself is not a good sign. But there are few signs that may have evolved in your relationship that suggest that it is time to divorce.
You are contemplating of being alone. The feeling of being alone gives you the sense of freedom- If you feel this way often, then it is time for divorce.
You are so not into your partner that the partner's touch gives you the creeps. It feels like a thousand ants on your skin. You feel bad bigly. You are feeling repulsed, only to yell out touch me not. It may not be the reason, but surely a signal in the direction leading to divorce.
If you have cheated or you have been cheated on, there is surely no turning back. Yes, there can be case made about forgiving. As good human being as you may be, forgiving is possible but forgetting is not likely. When faith is shaken, it is time for divorce.
Deep down you are looking into distant future. In that distant future, you are happy but ironically it does not include your partner. When you have that kind of vision too often, it is time for divorce.
In a marriage, keeping intensity in relationship requires two people. When there is no desire to fuel the intensity, there is trouble in a matrimonial paradise. There is apathy and your partner's action does not faze. It is time for a divorce.
As the last stanza in the “Turn, Turn, Turn” states, “I swear it's not too late.”
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