If you want to be in love and remain in relationship, do not rely on experts. It is best to stick with scientifically backed concepts.
It could be as simple as being in warm place. According to Yale psychologist, John Bargh, there is connection between body temperature and personality. When you feel warm physically, you behave warmly toward your partner. So whenever you get a chance, seek out warm places and foods so makes it lot easier to heat things up later on.
Interestingly, if you are good listener, your relationship is likely to last. It is because chances are your partner has need to be heard. Listening is actually the key element that is critical in all stages of a relationship- from beginning and thereafter.
Do you remember when you first met your partner, you were full of smile. As time goes on, your smile(s) takes a back seat. The attractiveness of person is ensured if your partner sees you smile when you see them. Smile is an indication of intensity you have for your partner.
Have you heard of the expression, “familiarity breeds contempt”?
In a relationship, familiarity may not reach “contempt” stage, but surely it reaches “taking for granted” stage. So it is important to let your partner know how you appreciate them. Saying simple “thank you” can be very meaningful. The feeling of gratefulness for each other is an essence of good relationship.
In a relationship kiss need not be “kiss of death” but “kiss of passion”. Kisses and touches become forgotten routine in a relationship. But kisses and touches are surely indication of the yearning for each other for that passionate encounter. The exchanged message is simple and yet powerful- you want and you are wanted.
As a relationship continues, the words “I love you” are repeated often. But what is lost that it has no longer significance attached to those words. Simply put, the emotional connection is missing. According to Illinois State University Professor, Sandra Metts' study, saying “I love you” before having sex has a positive impact on the trajectory of the relationship.
One of the major factors in relationship going off tangent is having expectations from your partner. You expecting your partner to love you always and keep you happy always. Your happiness can only be enhanced by your partner, but you can't expect your partner to keep you happy if you are not happy person yourself.
In essence, draw upon your own inner-resources to offer love, and attention to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.
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