The expression “good from far” really applies to online dating. Why do I say that?
My friend is so much into a person who she met online. She is really into him that he manages to manipulate her even though he is well over 600 miles away. He sees her once in three months. He forgets her birthday. Sometimes he even forgets to call her. But online magic is such that she yearns for him.
Whenever I see her, I feel a deep sense a rejection — not personally, but on behalf of my friends who are interested in her. Of course, from my point of view, my friends are far better than her online beau. Instead of interacting with the people around her, she chose for a companion she met online.
Online relationship is a new reality. It extends the option beyond the local circle. Online dating has proved even more useful — both to individuals and society — than the traditional avenues it has replaced. The young people’s view of life has changed. The age of first marriage is now in late twenties and more people in their 30's and even 40's are not ready to settle down.
The rise online dating websites gives people access to more potential partners than they could meet at work or in the neighborhood. It makes it easier for someone who is looking for something very specific in a partner to find what they are looking for. Most importantly, it’s modern romance which allows them to enjoy a pattern of regular hookups that don’t have to lead to relationships.
Let us not forget that online dating has real benefits. For people who have a hard time finding partners in their day-to-day, face-to-face life, the larger potential partners online is a big advantage for them. Online websites offers people choices as to what they are searching for- casual dating, long term relationship, marriage, etc…
There are basic advantages online dating offers:
- You can be more selective because you have a bigger group to select from.
- When you’re using online dating, and there’s the possibility of selecting on characteristics that you know you’re going to like, you’re going to know a lot more about people before a first date.
There tends to be extensive communication before the first date. A lot the information-gathering is attained about your potential by the information you can gather from the profiles and from a person before actually meeting them.
There is that need for love, romance, relationships and sex. The new technology- online dating- enables people to match people who would have otherwise not found each other. The real advantage (for those who do not mind getting out of comfort zone) is being able to find people you might have commonalities with but otherwise would never have crossed paths with.
Online dating tends to break a religion barrier. Simply because, you can’t tell what someone’s religion is from their picture. On online dating, the picture marks you with gender and race pretty clearly, but religion is something that you have to dig through to figure out.
There is no longer need to settle down mentality. There’s a little bit of a tendency now to put off settling down. Not a problem necessarily, but good or bad, it is the consequence of online dating.
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